All you are trying to do is clamp the cylinder head to the block and avoid leaks..... too much torque will give you too much clamping load and may lead to head distortion...
50lb is good enough, if you choose to use ARP's then read their fitting instructions as they recommend oiling prior to fitment... which will require a lower torque setting 
it's the head gasket, specifically its fire rings, that is likely to be damaged, not the cylinder head.
one reason for your seeing different torque figures is that the torque to be used depends on the lube used or not. If you use the ARP lube, it is the most slippery so the lowest torque figure
is recommended
the other extreme is torquing them with no lube. Motor oil is somewhere in between.
Try searching this forum and the Minifinity forum as this topic was covered to death very recently.
I use 42 lbs/ft. on my 1310cc racing engine with ARP studs and lube.