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[Deathrow]

Some of my more hansom good looking mates did well when 14 to 25 and failed later in life big time when they could not pull a women mature women look for a good man

trust me, the young ones look for good men too, we're just a lot less clued up of how to find them! ahah

Quite true...

I don't know, I wonder sometimes.

My ex was quite happy to assume I was a bad guy and act on it.

Whereas, I've seen people in relationships where the girl knows the guy is a bad guy and yet stays with them. It's not really a wonder nice guys finish last, it's because all the girls like to stick to guys that are actually bad, and if they're not bad, they dump them.

[cooperdan]

Some of my more hansom good looking mates did well when 14 to 25 and failed later in life big time when they could not pull a women mature women look for a good man

trust me, the young ones look for good men too, we're just a lot less clued up of how to find them! ahah

Quite true...

I don't know, I wonder sometimes.

My ex was quite happy to assume I was a bad guy and act on it.

Whereas, I've seen people in relationships where the girl knows the guy is a bad guy and yet stays with them. It's not really a wonder nice guys finish last, it's because all the girls like to stick to guys that are actually bad, and if they're not bad, they dump them.

well ive seen this plenty of times especially where i live...cant understand it really cant

It must seem "to you" what can i do to find that someone....

Its a matter of "when the moment comes" tommorow, next week, next month....just let come naturally thats all you can do dont go finding persistantly,

[Deathrow]

Yeah I guess.

I feel alright at the moment with improving myself and improving Elliot, maybe a girlfriend can go on the back burner for a bit.

I still have my highs and lows, but I guess everyone does .

[cooperdan]

Yeh everyone does...

Like you said there is elliot for the moment..

always nice to spend some time with the mini and nort have to worry about anything else

[Deathrow]

Yeh everyone does...

Like you said there is elliot for the moment..

always nice to spend some time with the mini and nort have to worry about anything else

Knowing my luck, I'll finish her, MOT her and she'll swan off with another man!

But it's alright, my welder is bigger than his (ohh err) .

Edited by Deathrow, 18 December 2009 - 07:01 PM.

[cooperdan]

lol

[Black.Ghost]

"Girls are like buses, there isn't any for ages and then 3 come at once."

I know a few girls that are like buses. A lot of people getting on and off and many at the same time.

I always thought girls were like trains.

Never on time
Never going to the place you want
Costly

it's all bullexcrement when people screw you over and then says 'let's be friends,' - errrrm hell to the no! mind games mind games drama drama you don't need it, cut and run! aha

*high five* Fully agree with you. I wanted to stay friends with my last ex but because I still wanted to be with her it all essenitally went wrong and now we dont talk. In the long term, I think its better if you aren't friends if one of you wanted to still be in the relationship. I think if we had only been together a couple of weeks and it just didnt work we would still be mates but it wasn't and we aren't.

The insurance I don’t know, knowing her it probably still down as a 998, but then again as I wouldn’t be surprised is she never bothers once it runs out. I would put money on her using the mini alone without L plates, experienced driver etc. While still on a provisional, besides what’s the worst they can do, take away licence you don’t have.

Wouldn’t be the first thing she’s done, living with her partner in several places but claming as if they were both single, avoided for paying the TV licence for the flat in town since January, the list goes on…

Reading that alone, I'm sorry to say mate but you had a good escape me thinks.

Maybe advice from an "old fart" can help. There are several facts that should be considered:

1. If trust is broken, it proves that the breaker was untrustworthy...hence not worth worrying about

2. Tash is right...you have to kiss many frogs etc. I forget how many girlfriends I had before my wife. In fact one of my ex's if now my sister-in-law (she married wife's brother)

3. Compromise is a two way street an MUST remain so. All giving one way is a recipe for disaster.

4. As hard as it may seem, recognise when a relationship is over and try not to brood over it.

5. The best "revenge" you can get is to show an ex that you have moved on and are enjoying life without them.

6. For those that play the lottery, you don't expect to win with the first ticket.....life is just like that...

All spot on. That's exactly how everything has been with me and the ex.

I don't know, I wonder sometimes.

My ex was quite happy to assume I was a bad guy and act on it.

Whereas, I've seen people in relationships where the girl knows the guy is a bad guy and yet stays with them. It's not really a wonder nice guys finish last, it's because all the girls like to stick to guys that are actually bad, and if they're not bad, they dump them.

It annoys the hell out of me, but then I think if she only wants bad guys then either she is a *tw*t, has some other bigger issues that I probably wont want to deal with or has no self respect.

I have a couple of other observations. Although in some circumstances you can meet people be friends and then fall in love later on, never go out with the intention of this. I would say the majority of times making friends with someone in a bar or something will put you in the 'friend-zone' meaning any chance of a relationship is dead. If you do get in the friend zone, there is always the possibility of then ruiing the friendship when you sak someone out on date, although most of the time it should be ok.

Secondly, as I have posted, I recently found myself single when I didn't want to be. Now, however, Ive decided there is no point waiting around for anyone that clearly isn't interested. So as it is Christmas, I intend to have a really good time, forget all about the girl and just go with the flow. If you put pressure on yourself to find a relationship it wont happen. And if you do find yourself in a relationship, the chances it something wont be quite right.

So my advice to everyone out there - its Christmas guys. Have fun. Forget anyone who ever screwed you over and have a good couple of weeks.

But don't make New Year's resolutions. Badness.

[TashHaggertay]

So my advice to everyone out there - its Christmas guys. Have fun. Forget anyone who ever screwed you over and have a good couple of weeks.

But don't make New Year's resolutions. Badness.

AHMEN!

[Deathrow]

So my advice to everyone out there - its Christmas guys. Have fun. Forget anyone who ever screwed you over and have a good couple of weeks.

But don't make New Year's resolutions. Badness.

AHMEN!

Now do you mean "amen" or "Ah, men!".

Hehe.

[davidv]

I also found you seem to wait a while to meet new women then 3 ask you out when in your late teens at the same time then you go out with the wrong one. Another one of my missons inposible had a girlfriend who was like a model fell in love with her after a month she packed me in and set me up with her mate to go out with she asked me if her boobs were as big as the others i said no she packed me in. Still she did not like my big motor bike. The next one did like bikes but more than me she just wanted to go on the back of it she went to a bike party and slammed the front door in my face and got of with a giant of a man he told me all about it the next day so the end of that bird. Its nice when you get someone who tells you first not there mates all women agree to they often get a lot of problems with there female mates nicking there men.Looking back i see the funny side but not back then.I will post more adventures.

[Deathrow]

Oh dear. That sounds very strange and emotionally complcated!

[1984mini25]

Reading that alone, I'm sorry to say mate but you had a good escape me thinks.

Ah... Well...

In hindsight (yep that bugger) I might have done something slightly stupid… I met back up with her briefly while she was signing on and doing a bit of shopping up the city.

At the mo I’m taking everything she has said at face value, but before I start I think it’s pretty clear between us were not jumping into bed together anytime soon.

Right basically, her dad knew he was on last legs and wouldn’t last much longer, but failed to tell anyone about it. “According” to the will everything money and house wise has been left to her 16 year old sister, leaving her with nothing and nowhere to live. But as she is only 16, the ex still has to pay for her upkeep until she turns 21 by her dad’s wishes. How true that is I don’t know?

She crashed the mini while out driving alone, so that’s off the road and the insurance has also run out.

She did finally admit she was cheating on me after I tired her up in knots and backed her into corner with her own lies. But she still had strong feelings for me, hence why she kept wanting to see me, staying over all the time, going out for meals, drinks, shows etc. And the only reasons why she was still running off back to him was, there were things she couldn’t tell me???? Him being ex military and the fact she still felt sorry for him being left in a flat with no way of paying the bills. So she was sneaking off there every time she got paid and was paying his bills and looking after him.

She did also say that ”we” were never really together, I didn’t quite get what she meant on that one and couldn’t get a straight answer. Although I did notice she still had a ring on...

But than saying all that, she didn’t appear to be all there mentally, kind of to be expected if it was all true and what with her just having to lay to rest her dad. I don’t know if by me turning up and giving her a hug (to make me feel better) instead of me turning up in a shitty mood ready for a fight, and with me being calm, caring and a shoulder to cry on confused her?

Yes I do feel sorry for her, but that’s just me. She did also admit that she has realised she’s been a complete *woman of ill repute* and not just to me, but in a strange way has got more than what she deserved as payback.

But that was as about as much as I could get out of her before having to part ways, she did seam rather keen on meeting up sometime properly for a drink and a proper more in depth chat.

But the one big thing I will say is I feel 100 times better in myself for seeing her again, there’s still feelings there for her from me, but in no way like there used to be.


The only thing that has shaken me up since was a phone call i received from her informing me that if she doesn’t come back from Afghanistan (she still wanting to go regardless) in the New Year I’m entitled to everything.

[Black.Ghost]

Ah... Well...

In hindsight (yep that bugger) I might have done something slightly stupid… I met back up with her briefly while she was signing on and doing a bit of shopping up the city.

At the mo I’m taking everything she has said at face value, but before I start I think it’s pretty clear between us were not jumping into bed together anytime soon.

Right basically, her dad knew he was on last legs and wouldn’t last much longer, but failed to tell anyone about it. “According” to the will everything money and house wise has been left to her 16 year old sister, leaving her with nothing and nowhere to live. But as she is only 16, the ex still has to pay for her upkeep until she turns 21 by her dad’s wishes. How true that is I don’t know?

She crashed the mini while out driving alone, so that’s off the road and the insurance has also run out.

She did finally admit she was cheating on me after I tired her up in knots and backed her into corner with her own lies. But she still had strong feelings for me, hence why she kept wanting to see me, staying over all the time, going out for meals, drinks, shows etc. And the only reasons why she was still running off back to him was, there were things she couldn’t tell me???? Him being ex military and the fact she still felt sorry for him being left in a flat with no way of paying the bills. So she was sneaking off there every time she got paid and was paying his bills and looking after him.

She did also say that ”we” were never really together, I didn’t quite get what she meant on that one and couldn’t get a straight answer. Although I did notice she still had a ring on...

But than saying all that, she didn’t appear to be all there mentally, kind of to be expected if it was all true and what with her just having to lay to rest her dad. I don’t know if by me turning up and giving her a hug (to make me feel better) instead of me turning up in a shitty mood ready for a fight, and with me being calm, caring and a shoulder to cry on confused her?

Yes I do feel sorry for her, but that’s just me. She did also admit that she has realised she’s been a complete *woman of ill repute* and not just to me, but in a strange way has got more than what she deserved as payback.

But that was as about as much as I could get out of her before having to part ways, she did seam rather keen on meeting up sometime properly for a drink and a proper more in depth chat.

But the one big thing I will say is I feel 100 times better in myself for seeing her again, there’s still feelings there for her from me, but in no way like there used to be.


The only thing that has shaken me up since was a phone call i received from her informing me that if she doesn’t come back from Afghanistan (she still wanting to go regardless) in the New Year I’m entitled to everything.

Im sorry dude, I really am but I am going to hit you over the head with something heavy and tie you up somewhere so you can't see this girl.

Firstly, the whole Will thing. I am not going to say she is lying about something like that, but just be careful before you fall for any stories that may or may not be true. I assume you mean her father's ex still has to pay for everything until the sister turns 21? At 18 she is an adult and can fend for herself, although I could understand a father wanting to look after his kid until she was 21.

Secondly, she told you so many lies you were able to tie her up in knots and get her to admit she was cheating on you. That tells me she told you so many she couldn't remember what she had said. That alone is reason enough to walk away.

Thirdly, I gather by the fact that she is off to Afghanistan in the New Year that she is in the forces...may I ask what cap badge she is? As for the phone call leaving everything to you, that means absolutely diddly squat. There was someone recently who was going through a divorce with his wife, but because it didn't go through before he was KIA she still received everything. The wife doesn't get on with his family and is stopping them from seeing the body. So that phone call means less than nothing. Unless she changes her will then ignore that.

As for there being something she couldn't tell you, I'm guessing it was something to do with going to this other guy's house and cheating on you.

Take a step back and look at everything. Has she been honest to you about anything? Do you really think you could trust her with anything again, even just as friends? Sometimes the truth hurts, as I have discovered recently, but you need to just walk away from this one. And don't look back. Seriously, for the sake of your own sanity, just walk away, forget all about her and have a good Christmas. If she still feels lonely, she can spend time with guy she was with behind your back. Or her sister or her mates. Just don't let it be you.

Im sorry but sometimes you need to hear the truth. I do feel for you with regard to how you felt about her and that you got screwed over, but now move on dude. And don't let this experience ruin future relationships except in a good way.

I had a mate who lost his mum in a car crash on his final exercise before he went to Afg for the first time, about 3 weeks before he left and he still went. Apparently it helped him quite a lot as he was always busy.

[davidv]

I do also have a fair few true storys about people in the the forces my mate went on one of there holidays for fun and sport a water sport his pal fell overbord he jumped in saved him but my mate was lost they never found him i had to talk to his women about it to.

[1984mini25]

Im sorry dude, I really am but I am going to hit you over the head with something heavy and tie you up somewhere so you can't see this girl.

Firstly, the whole Will thing. I am not going to say she is lying about something like that, but just be careful before you fall for any stories that may or may not be true. I assume you mean her father's ex still has to pay for everything until the sister turns 21? At 18 she is an adult and can fend for herself, although I could understand a father wanting to look after his kid until she was 21.

Secondly, she told you so many lies you were able to tie her up in knots and get her to admit she was cheating on you. That tells me she told you so many she couldn't remember what she had said. That alone is reason enough to walk away.

Thirdly, I gather by the fact that she is off to Afghanistan in the New Year that she is in the forces...may I ask what cap badge she is? As for the phone call leaving everything to you, that means absolutely diddly squat. There was someone recently who was going through a divorce with his wife, but because it didn't go through before he was KIA she still received everything. The wife doesn't get on with his family and is stopping them from seeing the body. So that phone call means less than nothing. Unless she changes her will then ignore that.

As for there being something she couldn't tell you, I'm guessing it was something to do with going to this other guy's house and cheating on you.

Right what I meant was the gf/ex is now the head of the household if you will, as her adopted mum died Christmas 07 and now her adopted dad Christmas 09, which just leaves her and her younger sis.

She could remember all the lies she had told me and was trying to still feed me *cow poo*; only I wasn’t in the mood to take it, so she had to back down and tell me straight.

Yep she is in the forces, just about the only thing she hasn’t lied about. As for the will thing, she had to leave to meet family about something and making a will (I didn’t quite hear) but I wasn’t expecting her to call saying that in her will she would be leaving me everything. That is of course if that’s true, but if it is why me?

As for the stuff she couldn’t tell me all i could get out of her was it was something to do with being in the forces, which if that was true I can understand, there’s probably a lot of *melon* that goes on that i really probably don’t want to hear about, but you could always try.
Although I did tell her straight that I didn’t like the situation of the events of her dad passing, as she was with him when it happened, called me a day later to tell me and to basically keep out of the way for a few weeks. Pretty much giving me the impression of her choosing him over me, but then again him dieing wasn’t exactly planed, just unfortunately happened that way and he was nearest.