
Smoking
#1
Posted 02 September 2011 - 05:55 PM
I would really appreciate some help and your thoughts.
Share your thoughts on the matter, but keep it civil and lets keep the smoker bashing out of it, 'you lot litter/kill through second hand smoke/make air crap for us non smokers' however true it may be, it's not relevant.
cheers guys
#2
Posted 02 September 2011 - 06:16 PM
Being an ex smoker who started at 12 i finally kicked the evil weed at 30. I had given up twice but due to events (family death and the first Gulf War) the kicker for me was the impending birth of my son.
This is how sad it is but i gave up on Dunkirk docks at 07.15am on the 10th Dec 1993 and have not touched one since and its all by will power.
Now there are patches, electric fags, gum etc etc so try some of those. Other than that its really down to you and how strong your will power is.
#3
Posted 02 September 2011 - 06:19 PM

#4
Posted 02 September 2011 - 06:21 PM
Write down all the reasons YOU want to give up and memorise them.
There is a book by Allen Carr (see Amazon) which is said to be good.
The habit (pscyhological) is more tricky and you will be sorely tempted in situations where you would normally smoke, eg pubs (smoking area, that is), parties, sitting in the park, after pleasurable, er, activities

At first, do whatever it takes to avoid difficult situations, even if it means being unsociable. Your friends will understand, otherwise they're not friends, are they?
Use the general smoking ban to your advantage and surround yourself with clean air, like-minded people and a nice feeling. Be smug, if necesary.
I smoked for 30 years and gave up when I was 45. Good luck.
#5
Posted 02 September 2011 - 06:50 PM
Cheers guys and i can only commend Sonik and Teapot for what must have been a serious ordeal.
Do you guys ever feel like going back or are you completely repulsed by smoking?
#6
Posted 02 September 2011 - 09:13 PM
It didn't occur to me until after I had finally given up, that the reason I had failed so many times before was that I had never actually wanted to give up on all those previous occasions in the first place. On all the previous occasions I had been trying to give it up because I knew that I really should stop smoking, but not because I actually wanted to. Each time I had tried before, it was either because of the cost, or because of what it was doing to my health, or because of the inconvenience of finding somewhere to smoke, or because I didn't like the smell it left on my clothes or whatever.
What was different the final time was that I made a concious decision that I really didn't want to smoke anymore, I didn't want to reach the age of thirty and still be smoking, so I gave up 6 months before my 30th Birthday and it was actually really easy that time. I had a few cravings and chewed a bit of gum for the first couple of weeks, but overall I really couldn't understand why I had found it so difficult all those other times.
So in my experience giving up smoking really is just a state of mind, there is no point trying to convince yourself that you need to stop smoking, or listing all the benefits in order to motivate you to do so, because you will just fail again and again if you haven't made the concious decision that you actually want to quit, as opposed to just thinking that it would be a good idea to.
Do you guys ever feel like going back or are you completely repulsed by smoking?
I'm utterly repulsed by smoking these days, I'm a raving anti smoker who cant stand it or even the smell of it. But I still cannot escape my smoking thought processes though. Most days I will at least once think to myself " I think I'll go outside and have a fag now" at some point. I also quite regularly decide that I'm going to walk out of the house, buy a packet of fags and smoke them all. I never actually have the intention of doing either and don't think that I actually ever would, yet I still have the thought process to.

Which just goes to show that if you have been a smoker, then you can never actually be a non smoker.... just a recovering one!!
Edited by AVV IT, 02 September 2011 - 09:13 PM.
#7
Posted 02 September 2011 - 09:18 PM
#8
Posted 02 September 2011 - 11:42 PM

#9
Posted 03 September 2011 - 12:49 AM
#10
Posted 03 September 2011 - 08:19 AM
I promised myself that when my daughter was born in 96 I would stop. The next morning after her birth I woke up reached for my cigarettes as I had done for years, picked up the packet of 17 and crushed it.
I have never touched one since, it was hard for a couple of days but I just kept telling myself that I didn't need them.
Will power is the key, patches, chewing gum etc all seem like a commercial con.
You dont see alcoholics weening themselves off booze by just having a couple of glasses of Vodka a day rather than a bottle.
If you want to stop then do just that STOP.
Good luck with it.
#11
Posted 03 September 2011 - 08:22 AM
#12
Posted 03 September 2011 - 08:36 AM
Besides we want to start a family soon and she is not smoking whilst carrying my baby!
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