Well, whoever did the old ones had not the slightest concern for safety, or maybe just no engineering comprehension whatsoever, if they were too tight. That is the second easiest way to kill people in a Mini. (The easiest involves the steering rack and column, and usually improperly fitting a drop bracket. Third involves messing up wheel bearings, usually too tight, by mixing spacers, or using defective parts.) I am sure that you are using proper care and attention, and your car will be safe. It isn't rocket science.
The ball joints may well be machined differently by various manufacturers, and you may have lapped them, so the number of shims required can be very different. Be sure to keep all your old shims, as next time (in a VERY long time, if you have set them up with between "no nip" and 3 thou endfloat, as per the manual, and grease them regularly!), you may need some of them. The ball joints really do last for ages and ages if shimmed up properly, and if they are well made.