Thanks for using search to bring up an old topic. It's always good to see old topics come back to the top.
There are many ways to clean a cylinder head. You need to give considerations to other areas before deciding how to clean.
If the cylinder head is not completely apart with valves and springs removed, I personally would not use any abrasives on the chambers, ports, or sealing surface. Wet/dry paper, sandpaper, lapping compound... they can all be left in the nooks and crannies that will eventually get into the bores. Abrasives are perfectly OK if the head is disassembled and you can wash it thoroughly when done.
The kerosene/paraffin soak will help soften the old carbon deposits. There are other cleaners you can use. Locate and mask any brass plugs. If the valve guides are bronze, plug them with rubber stoppers or cork. Then use spray oven cleaner (with caustic) on the ports and chambers. Allow it time to soak in, then use small wire brushes to scrub off the deposits.
You can lap the seating surface flat as BlueMini said in his 2007 post. However, a machine shop can handle this task a lot quicker than you can at home armed with only a piece of plate glass and sandpaper.