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[Shifty]

That as well!

[Juju]

Well not when it's someone I've never met before and doesn't even know my name.

Nope, it's simply the fact that people just have to give their opinion on everything and seem to think the world revolves around them.

A lot of people mistake shyness for rudeness (there is a very fine line!) and if you're in the company of someone who is also shy but is doing their damnedest to overcome it and make the best of what they feel is a very awkward situation, then yes, they may well introduce it to the conversation, and they may feel under far more pressure than the individual keeping schtum. It doesn't mean that they are voicing their opinion on your character, it means they are just as awkward as you. It's time to stop believing that all other people have the confidence that you lack, your behaviour has consequences too. There are very few people out there who are convinced of their own social status and standing.

[The Matt]

I always thought S.A.D. was Seasonal Affective Disorder?

[Juju]

I always thought S.A.D. was Seasonal Affective Disorder?

It are.
It also Separation Anxiety Disorder, Symptomatic Abdominal Distension, Sexual Arousal Disorder, Sporadic Alzheimer’s Disease & a whole host of other acronyms. Take your pick.

[Angelic_Fruitcake]

Blimey confusing or what!

[THE ANORAK]

A lot of people mistake shyness for rudeness (there is a very fine line!)

i know what you mean.... I'm just shy really

[Mini_Magic]

Just a quick update, I seem to be getting better and don't get quite so anxious as I use to but I've still got a long way to go. It does seem to be that the more social events I go to and the more times I put myself in awkward situations, the less anxious I get each time.

Edited by Mini_Magic, 09 September 2008 - 10:49 PM.

[Juju]

Just a quick update, I seem to be getting better and don't get quite so anxious as I use to but I've still got a long way to go. It does seem to be that the more social events I go to and the more times I put myself in awkward situations, the less anxious I get each time.

Yay!! practice, practice, practice....

[Angelic_Fruitcake]

Just a quick update, I seem to be getting better and don't get quite so anxious as I use to but I've still got a long way to go. It does seem to be that the more social events I go to and the more times I put myself in awkward situations, the less anxious I get each time.

Well done you its encouranging to make such progress too

[mini93]

dont worry im going Uni near him soon see what kinda trouble i can cause for him

[Mini_Magic]

I even managed to talk to a very cute girl at the weekend and not go all quiet. Still haven't completly sorted myself out yet I don't think.

I think the advise of just getting out there and trying not to worry about it has really worked well for me.

If there is anyone out there who wishes to talk about it or needs advise, please don't hesitate to send me a PM.

dont worry im going Uni near him soon see what kinda trouble i can cause for him

I'm getting worried now, I know what you students are like.

Edited by Mini_Magic, 23 September 2008 - 05:55 PM.

[dave21478]

Have you been actually diagnosed with this by an qualified expert, or have you read some stuff on wikipedia and thought it seems to fit how you feel about yourself?
This is the danger with access to too much medical knowledge if you are of a certain mentality. I could pick up my sisters "Book of Symptoms" and match probably 80% of whats written there to myself depending on how I am feeling at the time, both mentally and physically. This would mean I have everything from SAD to Alzheimers to Cholera!
If it genuinely worries you, then seek professional help. UNTIL you do this, you could clearly argue that reading this sort of information online will make you worse, as it then becomes a comfort to you to know that there is a "condition" that seems to fit you.

Im shy, Im intolerant of crowds, I dont like meeting new people, and prefer my own company to being with others. Behind my back, people who dont know me occasionally wonder f I am either quite aloof to the point of rudeness, or a bit retarded, as I never say much to anyone. Far from it, I just dont like talking to people due to my natural grumpiness. Maybe Im too intelligent? as frankly I find vacuous small-talk to be a waste of time.
If I meet someone new, Im not really interested in their opinions of the weather, sport, what they do for a living or where they are going on holiday, and I dont believe MY opinions are particularly worthy of discussion either, so I keep my mouth shut. This leaves silence, where the person i have just met wonders if Im ignoring them or if Im Forrest Gump.

I could look up the internet and probably find a dozen different big words that end in "obia" or "syndrome" that fit how I act, but that doesnt mean I have any of them.

[Mini_Magic]

have you read some stuff on wikipedia and thought it seems to fit how you feel about yourself?

Pretty much but I wouldn't say finding out that there is a condition has made it any worse for me. Infact it's made things better because I've been able to read information on how to get over it and hear stories about how others have and still do suffer from it. Before I started reading up about it I thought I was the only one and that I must be just plain weird. I would say that if I did speak to a qualified expert, then they would probably diagnose me with it. The Wikipedia page on it pretty much describes everything that goes on in my head.

[dave21478]

Thats what you think, but you need to let a qualified expert do the diagnosing, not yourself or a wikipedia article.

If I read all the symptoms for asthma, I could quite easilly say that I get them all. I dont have asthma, Im just unfit. There is a very important difference that only an expert is able to make a judgement about.

[JohnGordon]

But if this is helping people then what's the problem. In mini magic's case they have read these articals and are helping them self which if you ask me takes some b******s, I see your point of seein' a professional but at the end of the day all they can do is smack up to the eye balls and sit you down on a couch and talk to you about whether your dad was a bad man.

Personally I think it's good that people can get this info and if it helps them even better! But that's my opinion and I'm sure there's plenty of others around