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[wolfys_mini]

who suffers? if you suffered, how are you now? what did you do too help yourself?

are you "fixed"? getting "fixed"? how? where? any good?

dan

[BadgerBaiter]

No idea. Haven't been to see anyone about it, but quite possibly, yes.
Not fixed.

[tango'd]

who suffers? if you suffered, how are you now? what did you do too help yourself?

are you "fixed"? getting "fixed"? how? where? any good?

dan

its somthing every one has in there life it just depends on how depressed thay are from 1-10 i would say i was at about 4, my mate was at ten at the begining of the year and he delt with it by pipe in window and tap in gaps and it worked for him as he is no longer depressed, addmittingley he is no longer alive but he is happy, its a shame as he was a tallented guy

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i wouldent wish anyone to go and be silly about how thay deal with it, its never realy as bad as it seems at the time

[biggav]

I split with my 1st serious GF at 16 and discovered beer.. by 17 i was 17 stone, 18 = 18 stone 19.. you get it. at 19 i sold my MPI Cooper Sport and went travelling to south east asia.. blew the lot. returned with dengue fever and got stuck in hospital for 2 weeks. Went back to work at Rover on production line and met a personal trainer who gave me lots of weight loss advice, i quit drinking and lost 7 stone in six months at which point i joined the fire service (June 2000)


I met Kate in June 2001, got engaged in September, Preganant in October moved in together, bought a flat in may 2002.. ella born in July 2002. Kate had severe post natal deppression but refused to see/tell docs.
Moved to bigger house in October 2002 and found out George was on the way, George born June 2003, again kate had depression... i left BMW in 2003 and started plumbing.

April 2005 we got planning permission to build a house on the side of our own house, we started building it kate got preganant again.. holly born April 06 sold our house and moved in to built one and bough an even bigger house up the road... Mum and dad split up, couldn't sell the house we built as the builder wasn't NHBC registered so we couldn't get certificate. My biggest customer went bankrupt owing me £25,000.... mu dad bought the house for £40,000 less than it was worth and gave it to my mum in settlement.

June 06 broke my toe and had to have 6 weeks off with infection

I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety in early 2007 following a prostate infection.

I was signed off from work (i was unable to concentrate) and prescribed fluoxitine (prozac) to immediatley increase my brains happy hormones but this increased the anxiety to the point that i couldn't leave the house.. so i was put on diazepam to counteract the anxiety for a few weeks at which point a Mate of mine was killed in Iraq leaving 2 young twins and a widdow in her mid 20's.... kind of put my life in perspective. I came off the prozac in May 2007 and was signed back on for the fire service in early july... and then had 2 weeks of no sleep during the flooding where i was constantly out on calls and missed lots of my plumbing work....

due to all of the debts i had ammased, i had to take a second mortgage out in November 2007 and was ok until about 2 months ago when my 2 year fixed deal on my first mortgage came to an end and increased payments by £400 per month i also had credit cards and overdraughts from being off sick and feeding 4 kids. I was signed off again in July with an Acute Stress Reaction and have just returned back to the fire service but plan to leave at the end of the year.

Councilling is great for making sense of why you are depressed but if it's down to money and the trouble is still there after the councilling then there's little point.

I haven't been to sleep yet and i'm on site in an hour

Still havingh major money trouble and lots of work cancelled due to credit crunch... i can earn up to £1000 a day on a good day though and I have just been signed as a solo artist by a music agent and he want's my band too....

I think i have stress now rather than depression but i keep in close contact with my own GP and the Fire Service Doctor/ occupational health team as Acute Stress Reactions can lead to PTSD.

[ZED]

i can earn up to £1000 a day on a good day
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AND YOUR DEPRESSED?

[Mark@IR]

i can earn up to £1000 a day on a good day

AND YOUR DEPRESSED?

Money isn't everything, its how you deal with it that makes the difference. Can i recommend a book? click here.

Not a book to help with the depression, that book is related to Zed's comment.

If you read, i think you might enjoy it.

[*DJH*]

I've never openly admitted this before but yes i suffer from depression too.

All sorts of reasons, years ago we was nearly evicted from our house, i had health problems as a child and i used to be beaten up a lot at my primary and secondary school. Thats why i have a fiery temper now, after all the sh#t i had over the years i just started to lash out at anyone who was being nasty to me, and now it makes it worse with the odd mood swing here and there.

So Dan, now that i have my calm head on i can actually apologise for having umpteenth rows with you and acting like a complete wan#er. Only thing i have to say in my defence is they were times where i had the depression and mood swings.

[Jupitus]

Hmm... depression. Not good, and made all the worse by the popular, but in my experience now misguided, belief by some that it is some kind of social stigma. It isn't.

I have severe depression, and have been on medication for it now for about 4 years (citalopram). This keeps my moods on an even keel and the symtoms of the depression barely noticeable. One of the hardest aspects of the situation was the first visit to the GP to talk about it, explain the situation and the emotional 'blow' that I got when I was diagnosed. However, after a few weeks on medication and doing research I realised that my depression is nothing more than a physical chemical imbalance... I'm not crazy or a weirdo, but it took a little while to get past those reactionary thoughts.

There is absolutely nothing wrong in saying 'I have depression' or any other mental illness, so if you think you might have pop in to see your GP and get their views. I did, and never regretted it

[blacktulip]

i think what gav said is true, you have to assess whether you are stressed or depressed. sometimes i feel down with things and wish my life was different, but this may be down to doing the same thing day in day out. its all to easy to look at other peoples lives and wish we had what they do, i call this lifestyle living disorder where you see the big house, flash car, expensive clothes etc.

if you take a step back and look about who you are, life doesnt actually seem that bad. as long as you are doing something you enjoy and getting decent sleep each night really helps alot.

[Angelic_Fruitcake]

As it's been said, be very careful with self-diagnosis; stress, anxiety and depression can be very similar in manifestation

Your local mental health team (part of the NHS) may be able to help. Somone I am close has regular appointments there at the moment, and it does seem to help, especially with getting to the root of issues. Sometimes the nature of the problem means that the counselling cannot directly help, ie money etc, but it's still worth doing, as it enables you to better deal with the problem, and it doesn't seem like you're so alone with it.

[Jammy]

It does seem though, that some people use depression as a way of getting attention and sympathy, and so seeking help is not something they want to do, because if their 'condition' is cured, how will they continue to get that attention or sympathy.

[Strontium Dog]

Go get some St Johns Wort. It's so good the drug companies conspired to get it banned! Check with your GP if you are on prescription meds first though. Should be no side effects and easy to get off of unlike the big drug companies efforts! Give it a couple of weeks to work.

Because it has no side effects and you can't feel it kick in like a lot of anti depressants a lot of people don't think it worked for them but they feel much better now anyway!!!

Good luck!

EDIT
Not sure if it would help with asbergers though. I have worked with kids with asbergers and it's difficult for them. You have my every sympathy, even if you aren't looking for it!!!

Edited by Stronteum Dog, 29 August 2008 - 10:26 AM.

[Retro_10s]

Came off the Anti depressants 2.5 years ago now and am doing okay. Had a very tough time about 3 months ago and very nearly thought i was going to have to get councelling but have decided to stick this one out myself,... Figured they only helped me feel i was getting better because i believed somehow that popping that pill down my throat was somehow gonna cure me. Placebo effect. Hardest thing is to do something for yourself in my opinion, because (in my case) i felt i wasn't worth it.

Some days i will wake up and feel very motivated, and if i don't seize the chance i will talk myself out of it,.. and go back to being unmotivated and un-interested in anything. Mood swings happen all the time to me, but I generally keep them inside and try to project a fairly confident outerself,.... some times my confidence is sky high, sometimes i just want to curl up and not bother with anything, it's such a rollercoaster ride.

Councelling, in my experience, forced me to hear things i didn't want to, I didn't appreciate it and it didn't help.

The whole experience has mellowed me out loads,.. The one main thing that the anti-d's did was to switch anger and frustration off,.. i simply couldn't get angry, i knew i wanted to be, but it didn't happen. That part of the reaction has stuck and i find it very hard to get Angry now, just chillaxed all the time

I would say i'm not 'cured' (if that's the right word), I'm not sure you ever can be really,.. things that happen will affect you forever and they will never go away. However I'm certainly more at ease with the past even though it still upsets me a lot. I just need to stop the present getting to me now!

I'd be no where without friends, new and old.

Im told everyone has depression in a different way but for me I can only describe it as being down a wishing well, it has a ladder to climb in and out.... sometimes you are near the water and you are afraid you will drown and other times you are higher up and can feel sunlight on your face, one day I hope to climb out and be really free.

That's amazing, Never heard it described like that but it's a very good description thanks.

Edited by Retro_10s, 29 August 2008 - 10:24 AM.

[Angelic_Fruitcake]

It does seem though, that some people use depression as a way of getting attention and sympathy, and so seeking help is not something they want to do, because if their 'condition' is cured, how will they continue to get that attention or sympathy.

By the same token, some people who genuinely do have it refuse to get treatment for fear of being dismissed as an attention seeker.. People are scared of the stigma attached to getting help or counselling, which is wrong because these are the people who really need the help.

[Jupitus]

It does seem though, that some people use depression as a way of getting attention and sympathy, and so seeking help is not something they want to do, because if their 'condition' is cured, how will they continue to get that attention or sympathy.

By the same token, some people who genuinely do have it refuse to get treatment for fear of being dismissed as an attention seeker.. People are scared of the stigma attached to getting help or counselling, which is wrong because these are the people who really need the help.

This is very true... my son, in fact, has recently been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and he suffered these concerns. Luckily for him, I have depression (how odd does that sound! ) and we are able to discuss alot of these things with me knowing alot of the kind of thing he is going through. He now has a really positive attitude towards treatment and does alot to help others in similar situations through the help groups he attends and so on.