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[Heather&Henrietta]

That sounds horrible


Surely it would have been better to approach you calmly, on a different occasion, to ask if you'd be ok with it...and even if you were, there would be ways and means of going about it...That sounds like it was just insensitive...


However, I am in agreement with daveholman...if I were in her position, and saw you with someone else, I would take that as a sign that you'd moved on Have you spoken to her about the way you feel?

[Black.Ghost]

I think you are all missing the point. I am moving on and Im not trying to control who she does or doesn't see. If he genuinely liked her and said so to me, I really wouldn't have had a problem with it. Another mate liked her, and when he realised he said sorry he didn't realise and that was it. But I didn't have a problem with that. That's the difference in how to approach it.

She only saw me for about 20 seconds with her, I deliberately stayed well away from her. I really don't think that has anything to do with it. I might be wrong though.

As for talking to her, I tried a couple of times after we first broke up but no more. She knows how I feel about her. I am also 99% confident she will be fully aware that it the other girl meant nothing and that I wasnt deliberately trying to wind her up or anything.

Why does everything to do with relationships turn out to be a stupid game?

[Lloydie Boy]

dude thats not fun. as i got it your cool with anyone she dates/sleeps with but it was his attitude about the whole thing.

i had a ex who 2 mates went out, with im not friends with one of them now. he went about it all wrong and i sort of k.o'ed him. which i know now was wrong but still made me feel better at the time

[Black.Ghost]

However, I am in agreement with daveholman...if I were in her position, and saw you with someone else, I would take that as a sign that you'd moved on Have you spoken to her about the way you feel?

It might seem that you are right after all...she doesn't really appear to be talking to me again. Great.

dude thats not fun. as i got it your cool with anyone she dates/sleeps with but it was his attitude about the whole thing.

i had a ex who 2 mates went out, with im not friends with one of them now. he went about it all wrong and i sort of k.o'ed him. which i know now was wrong but still made me feel better at the time

I bet it felt brilliant. I would have felt good I must admit, but like you say afterwards its not the best thing to have done.

[Lloydie Boy]

However, I am in agreement with daveholman...if I were in her position, and saw you with someone else, I would take that as a sign that you\'d moved on Have you spoken to her about the way you feel?

It might seem that you are right after all...she doesn\'t really appear to be talking to me again. Great.

dude thats not fun. as i got it your cool with anyone she dates/sleeps with but it was his attitude about the whole thing.

i had a ex who 2 mates went out, with im not friends with one of them now. he went about it all wrong and i sort of k.o\'ed him. which i know now was wrong but still made me feel better at the time

I bet it felt brilliant. I would have felt good I must admit, but like you say afterwards its not the best thing to have done.

Maybe you should try and speak to her about the whole thing, my advice. (take it if you want ) ism either try and be friends and see what happens or just both chose to go sperate ways and leave it at that.

yeah it did but i got in some *melon* for it trust me. hey we all do thing we regert

Edited by Lloydie Boy, 10 December 2009 - 03:49 PM.

[davidv]

I would have a new start with a new person its hard to let go all the best

[Black.Ghost]

I'm all done with the relationship side of things with her, thats not the issue.

Being in the army and having to live together means it is awkward is all - we will always be around each other as we have the same mates. In hindsight, we probably shouldn't have got together.

[camp freddy]

obviously you still have feelings for her , but the defining word here is ''EX'' ,
You need to move on, probably your 'mate' finds it hard approaching girls and
as he knows her through you he finds it easier to approach her.. he may doing
this not realising he's is upsetting you, but he may just think as she's your EX
you won't be bothered !!

As the old saying goes 'it takes two to tango' , If your EX still had feeling for you
she would be a bit more discreet, but it seems she has moved on!!

Sorry if this offends but it's my opinion.

All the best

Carl..

[davidv]

You have the same mates to i had the same problem when 18 when we all went out she was there try to just stay mates with her i did not with mine a big mistake even fixed her up with one of my mates to go out with instead of me no joy all the other women fell out with me to in the group of mates no fun my mistakes had to find a new place to drink with my new girlfriend The others would push me to say why i finished with her i said bad things about her but still i was only 18 then Good Luck mate

[Black.Ghost]

obviously you still have feelings for her , but the defining word here is ''EX'' ,
You need to move on, probably your 'mate' finds it hard approaching girls and
as he knows her through you he finds it easier to approach her.. he may doing
this not realising he's is upsetting you, but he may just think as she's your EX
you won't be bothered !!

As the old saying goes 'it takes two to tango' , If your EX still had feeling for you
she would be a bit more discreet, but it seems she has moved on!!

Sorry if this offends but it's my opinion.

All the best

Carl..

The irony is there has been no tangoing. Not since we split up. I cant work out if she does still have feelings for me or not. And neither of us is deliberately annoying the other one with anything.

And dont worry Im not taking any offence at anything. Everyone is entitled to opinions.

And David, neither of us have said anything bad about each other to anyone. We aren't like that.

[davidv]

Good man i got upset and was rude my mistake i take full shame over it she was a good one just me