20- 50 oil is better for the a series engine. with the autos you need to change the oil regularly as its lifespan is short being used as hydraulic oil for the box.
most faulty auto boxes will run fine with the wheels of the ground through every gear.
the usual fault is clutch slip in top / forth gear clutch. this clutch is also the reverse gear too.
so does your car slip in 4th gear & reverse on the ground ? or every gear ??