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[scrumpix]

having been there twice I know exactly how you feel. The road to recovery is different for everyone eventually you will feel better it may be tomorrow it may be 6 months, but as each day passes the negative thoughts ease just a bit, its not always noticeable but you will overcome it.

[Gerbil367]

_{Good luck Buddy, just take it a step at a time.  Some regular exercise does help though, I can vouch for that - some mates of mine have PTSD and find that it does help them.}

[will_]

Seems there are people on board who are just as down as you, and im sorry to learn this. Big man hug to all those in need !!

 

Luckily for me, i can keep positive. Yeah, stuff gets me down but i always seem to put it down to 'one of those things' .

I remind myself that the wife 'seems' to love me....... my job is stable, i enjoy my work, my cars, my toys, im in decent health etc etc.

I lost my nan in 2010, she was an inspirational person, funny, witty but also a ripe old age of 91 so her time had come and we celibrated her life with a proper knees up and plenty of good memories.

point is, life gets naff at times, and i know its easy to say, but look to the good times, and think less of the bad times, because a lot of it can just be dwelling on those bad things. Get yourself motivated with things you enjoy, leave yourself less time to think, especialy if it is about depressing matters. You obviously want to make changes, so be spontanious & reach those goals.

Really hope all those going through bad times can find light at the end of the tunnel. :)

[Midas Mk1]

Thankyou for the replies guys, it means a lot! :)

Yeah i've been to the docs, and have an appointment booked to speak to someone about this.

It has just managed to cause a whole lot of stress and upset, and like people say, once I actually realised what was going on, I don't want it repeating, so need to control it rather than ignoring it / passing if off as per the past.


Went for a drive yesterday, just filled up and drove. Considering the weather, it was really good! Think it was long overdue!

 

[stevearch0]

Good man!  You have done the right thing seeing the doc. Your on the right track now, and things can only get better from now on.keep us posted if you feel like it, if not dont worry, its time to think of yourself!!!!!!

[stevearch0]

Nice motor too!!!!

[Ethel]

I feel a Mini metaphor coming on....

 

If your temperature gauge was in the red it would be your Mini's way of making you modify your driving behaviour, and a perfectly normal function of the design. Disconnecting the temperature sensor would give the impression that all's well from the driving seat, as it could be if it was only a faulty gauge, but it can't fix a blown head gasket or leaky radiator. To return to trouble free motoring it's best to find the underlying problem and take the time to fix it than to keep topping up the cooling system 'n hope the worst doesn't happen.

 

I agree with Wise Old Elf too: understand your brain chemistry is designed to respond to the outside world, and was modifying our behaviour long before evolution gave us consciousness, try and keep a sense of proportion over what you can reasonably expect to control, and remember what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and wiser - Buddhists made a religion  out of that idea. 

[cookie4343]

It's hard to stop it repeating, your get better then someone or something will upset you then it will return and hit you harder.
Ive had depression for a few years and it gets better but can be hard to deal with, I'm better now married with 2 children and they are what keeps me going, it all started 3 years ago when me and my partner had our daughter all the stress of sleepless nights going to work stressing when I was home because I was always tired, then I walked out my job me and my partner were always togeather and ended up always arguing which pushed us apart to the point she cheated on me after 7 years she pushed me away and led me to believe we were never gonna work And she didn't love me.
Finally last year she fell pregnant again by me thankfully and eventually found out the truth by the persons brother after a argument.
That's my story, I'm now back in a healthy relationship with 2 kids but no real job, but family is all that matters, I nearly lost them once and I certainly won't make the same mistake again just stay strong and fight it.