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[deanymini]

Get some exercise. It's amazing what a release of endorphins can do for your mental well-being.

[deanymini]

And avoid booze. There's nothing worse than "booze blues" on top of daily worries.

[Midas Mk1]

Thanks for the quick replies guys, it really means alot!
What you've all said makes sense, and il take it onboard :)

I think the hardest part has been trying to realise what was going on - I really didn't realise until about a week ago the extent of how I'd been feeling. My cousin told me in November but I just blurted out it was nonsense. And since then I've just been this moody person, and totally not being me.
I've always suffered from anxiety, but the feeling of having to escape, like from a confined room, has for greater, and recently I had the same feeling but to escape from thoughts and worries circling me constantly in my head.

I've been moody and weird to the ones I love most - and this thought is really hurting and upsetting me.

I've upset my gf from how I've been behaving and being down and not myself recently, and I'm really scared that this will ruin us. I just wish I'd have known about more of the warning signs, as for looking it up, 90% of them are true to me.

[Steely]

I had depression for 3 years, and I found that talking to people who can relate really helped. I felt less like it was only me with these problems. I then just tried to ignore it and stay positive. I don't think I'm fully "cured" but I don't feel as bad as I did.

[cradley-heathen]

i cant say that i can offer any advice really, but i just wanted to say that i feel for you, and i hope things come right for you soon mate.

 

i have been down some pretty dark roads in the past and have felt really low, albeit for different reasons to yours. but it got to the point where i wondered if there was any point going on, but i have got through it and im pretty sure you will too.

 

hope you get sorted soon dude.

[blacktulip]

best thing to do is to get outdoors doing something. take something up and set yourself some goals. i often talk about feeling down and i have come to the conclusion its usually when i don't have anything to look forward to. the feeling i get is like im waiting for something to happen but it doesnt come along.

 

have you got any pets?

[Chris1992]

i know how you feel mate, been there too many times. not really much i can add on top of what others have said, but i hope things start looking up for you soon.

 

you can add me to the list of people to pm if you ever need to buddy

[Midas Mk1]

Sorry for the slow response to the thread guys! Thankyou very much for the replies.

I've been doing things that people have suggested on here. Been doing more exercise after work, even taking my aunties dog for walks etc, seeing as my pet died last year, and been seeing / speaking to my family a lot more. Been going to bed really early, can't say thats helped, don't feel any less tired :/

Have been writing things down that have been stressing me out, to try release the pressure inside. 

The trigger is definitely me worrying about losing stuff, losing people most important to me. 

I've been trying to focus on stuff to do, things to aim for. Throughout the past 5-6 years, my Mini(s) have been my goals to get away from worries such as work, exams and getting to uni, to more pressing matters such as cancer which has affected my family in a big way. Whatever I've been doing, I've always had the Minis as goals to get me through stuff.

It's just now, i just can't seem to get motivated / find something to aim for. My Mini currently has its expensive engine in bits, and has been like that for a while, and my daily could really do with a refresh to be at my standard (it's where the mini ocd kicks in). My gf is my only motivation, and even now she is fed up with me.

What I have been suffering from has made me just not be myself the past month or so, and has driven away my gf. That is the last thing I ever wanted.
Together we helped each other last year get through loads of stuff, and get better with anxiety etc, and we both make each other feel better. I know she's been feeling **** the past few weeks when we've not talked, and I know I have. It's making everything feel worse, and the fact the cause of it is because I've just not been myself ( and spent 4 months ignoring it) just makes me worry even more.

I just find it hard to get that after  18 months, the effects of what happened are hurting more than ever, time doesn't help. 


 

Edited by Midas Mk1, 13 February 2014 - 09:03 PM.

[stevearch0]

Hows things going there midas mk1? Hope things have picked up for ya and things are heading in the right direction.

[stevearch0]

Spooky! As i posted, so did you!!! Have you been to the docs? There is plenty they can do if you are honest and explain everything. And if you dont get the answers you want, ask to be reffered to a physcologist,  dont be put of by anyone. Its time to take the bull by the horns!! I dont for a minute want to sound patronising, its just i was exactly the same, kept ignoring the problem and all it did was get worse. Hope this helps mate

[Wise Old Elf]

Sorry to hear about your GF. It is difficult for people to understand what you are going through if they do not suffer.

You really need to get your doc to refer you to a therapist; you need to talk it through with a pro now.

[Steely]

What I found most annoying when dealing with my problems were that you'd help someone with there's and when it comes to yours they don't want to know!

[RedRuby]

You have taken the biggest step, you've admitted it to yourself and sought help. Congratulations. We are all different and no one knows exactly how things are affecting you only how things are affecting them. That's why it can be hard there is no single answer medication may help but it is not necessarily the cure, just a means to help towards the cure. If you can, find people you trust and can talk to and take small steps, each small step is the start of a long journey. Sorry to say there is no quick fix, part of the trick is to recognise the small improvements and build on them no matter how insignificant they might seem. If you think in terms of bricks, one improvement equals one brick, more bricks become a wall, more become a house etc etc. good luck, you can do it

[andynbr]

As RedRuby said, admitting to yourself is the biggest and scariest step. It took me almost a year to admit I have a problem and seek help. It's very easy to feel like there's nothing wrong and you're just making it all up and no one will understand. However, the more I researched how I was feeling, the more I realised I wasn't alone.

 

One thing I found very useful was writing. I first started writing down how I felt on the laptop. It may have come out as complete ramblings, but it started to build a picture. The more I wrote, the more I could see what was going on and I started to understand what all my friends had been telling me for months. I ended up starting up my own blog, using it as a release whenever I needed to vent or get off my chest. I likened it to taking lemon tea when you have a cold, writing in my blog was a sip of lemon tea and it really did help.

 

The other piece of advice I can give is don't be afraid of medication. It has a lot of negative stigma, but it's not like that. I started off on Citalopram but they made me feel worse. I then took Sertraline for the best part of 18 months and they really helped. They helped me sleep, helped to release the anxiety and allowed me to start doing the things I hadn't done for a long time. They bring back a bit of normality, which in turn helps boost confidence, which in turn boosts moral and helps you fight harder and harder. If you did ever go down the route of medication, remember there are a lot of different types, and it's not possible to tell which will be the best for you so don't give up if at first they don't succeed. Keep seeing your doctor, they'll be able to advice the best course.

 

Always remember though, you're not alone. Even though it might feel like it, you only have to look at the amount of replies from such a small community as this. There are people who have been through it, are going through it or will go through it at some point in their life. It's a journey, but one you will reach the end of, you just have to keep looking forwards.     

[mk3 Cooper S]

Get some exercise. It's amazing what a release of endorphins can do for your mental well-being.

 

Yep spot on advise and in the medium term there is Happy pills prescribed by the doctor.

 

It is a chemical reaction that you wont just snap out of so seek your doctors advice.