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[yorkshirechris]

Most of it is tongue in cheek

[The Matt]

Most of it is tongue in cheek

But still offensive none the less!

[yorkshirechris]

lighten up!

[che]

Don't worry us girls re not all the same.

She'll get over it in due course.

Good luck and I hope you soon find another lady "companion".

[panelbeaterpeter]

I don't really see why it's a problem, it probably just shows she cares if she is getting jealous/inquisitive! my girlfriend does that sometimes, I've nothing to hide so I don't care! Blokes are alot worse in most ways!

[stickycreambun]

tell it how it is Pete! I can just about understand it, dont really agree with her doing it but still. She may not want to get back with you but it is very possible she still feels attached. I dunno!
Its like one of those 'two types of people' situations, one who is clear-cut down the middle ie. do you want me yes/no and the other gray one in the middle ie. yes but pressure/commitment etc...


thats what the bun thinks anyways..

[Rob Himself]

That's it though ... I've got nothing to hide, so she could easily ask me, but she was so back-handed about it.
'Still has feelings for me' ? Funny freaking way of showing it.

As the old bundle of wisdom that is my Dad once said, "Women ... buggered if I know!"

[Black.Ghost]

Firstly, I would be of the opinion that she may still have feelings but girls are somewhat unpredictable so its hard to tell. I would also be pretty p'eed off if an ex had gone through my computer. The porn on there is a great idea.

Secondly, I was listnening to Radio 1 today, and Scott Mills got women to phone up and confess to what they do.

There are some strange insecure girls out there. One girl would reguarly check her bf's ex gf's facebook pics because she was ugly and it made her feel good. A couple of lads phoned up and said that after one night stands girls had left their underwear in weird places, one of which was the cutlery drawer in his kitchen!

The funniest bit however was Scott read something from some blokes mag that said that girls often phone up exs for sex instead of finding someone new to keep their number down Girls were phoning up afterwards wanting to know how he had discovered their little secret haha. It was very funny.

Scott Mills is a legend. Flirt divert is a genius idea.

I know that does reallyhelp you Rob but I just thought I would share it.

Edited by TneMini, 12 March 2008 - 11:10 PM.

[Holly]

HaHAI was listening to that scot mills! but I didnt fit into any catagories proberly because i been with my mr since i was 14 and neither of has cheater i hope

Anyway i would say it was wrong for here to go and purposely walk into you room to look on your laptop and then show it to you other flat mate But i wouls think if she has told you she doesnt want to get back its purely a case of " i dont want to date you but no one else can!"

I trust my bf 100 % but i still look at his phone if hes not there just to see what hes up to and he will look at mine or play games on it grrrrrrrrrrr! IT doesnt bother me we have no secrets so whats the problem!

[Amy]

It sounds like a 'Dog in the Manger' syndrome to me......

(for anyone who doesn't know the saying)



She doesn't want you, but certainly doesn't want anyone else to have you either!! So the big green eyes come into play and she can't stop nosing into your private stuff, just in case........



Simon's ex was exactly the same, she kept leading him on, and drawing him back into her life every time he found someone new, but never really wanted him back..... I kicked that idea right out of the window when I came a long haha


Tell her to grow up, if she wants to get back together then fine, but if she's just being nosey, then tough luck, she doesn't have the right to look at your stuff at all.....

[Angelic_Fruitcake]

It sounds like a 'Dog in the Manger' syndrome to me......

(for anyone who doesn't know the saying)



She doesn't want you, but certainly doesn't want anyone else to have you either!! So the big green eyes come into play and she can't stop nosing into your private stuff, just in case........



Simon's ex was exactly the same, she kept leading him on, and drawing him back into her life every time he found someone new, but never really wanted him back..... I kicked that idea right out of the window when I came a long haha


Tell her to grow up, if she wants to get back together then fine, but if she's just being nosey, then tough luck, she doesn't have the right to look at your stuff at all.....

I think Amy hit the nail on the head there, I had a friend whose ex girlfriend kept doing that too. If she doesn't want you back she should just let go and let you move on and be happy

[wayneb911]

I agree its the if i cant you cant have him syndrome. Lets face it its not just girls who suffer from this. We all get jelouse!! It can also be the age, at such a young age there is a lot of insecurity for relationships, im sure people will say they never look at their other halfs phone etc but i would guess its a lie. Me and my partner answer each others phones etc as we have nothing to hide but sometimes that sort of things comes latter in a relationship and also at a latter age, you tend to grow out of the i want to know what ther up to faze as you get older and more secure in yopurself. If its ment to be it will be. Why waste time wondering what if she or he.... If someone is going to do something behind your back they will regardless of how much you worry so dont waste time worrying about it and get on with life as your worrying about something that may never happen.

With regard to the computer i think she was wrong but also lets face it if she said "let me look at your emails etc i want to see if your talking to other women" would you have really let her???

I say take advantage of the the situation your single so is she and obviously has feelings!! So get YA LEG OVER!!! And think nothin of it after..

[Holly]

If someone is going to do something behind your back they will regardless of how much you worry so dont waste time worrying about it and get on with life as your worrying about something that may never happen.

Thats what my mr said to me wheni went to uni! I think that attitude is a good one to have

[Jammy]

I've read the first post, but not the rest, so I don't know what advice other people have given you.

But you pretty much have two ways of dealing with this. It does sound like she still likes you, so you either have to stay friends, in which case her feelings for you probably won't subside, not with you two living together, or shock her into realising you've moved on (taking a female chum back for 'coffee' and making sure she meets your ex in the kitchen "accidentally" the next morning should work).

[stickycreambun]

sly old dog huh Jammy..!

it would work yeah, but depends if Rob can upset someone deliberately like that! (or am I just soft? thinking about it, thats what got me into trouble so much in the past!)