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[666junky]

Me?! aha you were waffling to twig.. i kept quiet! Like i say, if its someone i know, im usually ok. its first time strangers that i go odd around..

Minimagic.. do you find if your in a shop with friends, you would rather they pay with your money than you go up yourself?

[Minigirl]

I also find it quite difficult when people call me shy and quiet to my face, I don't tend to stick up for myself.

i hate it when people say that to me. they're normally pretty predictable the type of people that will say it and most likely say it to try and put you down so they look better

nowt wrong with been quiet and shy though i have been all my life and i'm not likely to change besides i'd rather be that than some gobby *horrid woman*

Edited by Minigirl, 24 July 2008 - 01:44 PM.

[Mini_Magic]

Minimagic.. do you find if your in a shop with friends, you would rather they pay with your money than you go up yourself?

That's not really a problem for me, it's when I don't have the right amount of change or I'm taking too much time in sorting out my money that it becomes uncomfortable.

[Mini-Mad-Craig]

I often go to my co-op with like 200 1p's whoch my dad gets from his car, now thats embarrising handing all them in, "sorry about the change"

[Natalie]

I can understand to a degree what you're going through, I wouldn't say that I have Social Anxiety Disorder but I don't like being in situations where I might have to talk to new people and I hate using the telephone if I don't know who I'll be talking to. With work I've had to get over that, but out of work I try to avoid making phone calls even if it's just to the local take away.
When I was younger my parents would sign me up for lots of out of school clubs like athletics or piano lessons, I would always be looking forward to them but usually a couple of days before I'd change my mind and end up not going.
At 16 I left school and had enrolled at a college that no one from my secondary school was going to, which would have obviously meant having to deal with a lot of new people, the day before I was supposed to start I changed my mind and went for the "safe" option of the VIth form attached to the school.


I once read something along the lines of :

There are over 6billion people on Earth, who cares what a very small minority think?

Which I suppose is true, just got to follow it now

[THE ANORAK]

not trying to change the subject or be unsympathetic, but i have developed a dislike of crowds lately. not in a fearsome way but in a total lack of tolerance and patience way. going shopping just winds me up these days. in fact I'm becoming very impatient all round lately. i put it down to getting old

but the point is, many people have many different sorts of habits or disorders or dislikes etc. etc. some can be very slight and some can be really bad. so your not on your own. its more common than you think

my sisters a total nut

[Natalie]

not trying to change the subject or be unsympathetic, but i have developed a dislike of crowds lately. not in a fearsome way but in a total lack of tolerance and patience way. going shopping just winds me up these days. in fact I'm becoming very impatient all round lately. i put it down to getting old

It's not age (I don't think anyway) I think people are just becoming more annoying in general.

[Mini_Magic]

I once read something along the lines of :

There are over 6billion people on Earth, who cares what a very small minority think?

Which I suppose is true, just got to follow it now

Easier said then done though.

To a degree, I don't care about what some people think. It's the people at work or other social situations where it's a problem. Walking down the street or going up to a counter usually isn't too much of a problem.

[wolfys_mini]

not trying to change the subject or be unsympathetic, but i have developed a dislike of crowds lately. not in a fearsome way but in a total lack of tolerance and patience way. going shopping just winds me up these days. in fact I'm becoming very impatient all round lately. i put it down to getting old

It's not age (I don't think anyway) I think people are just becoming more annoying in general.

not wishing to spam james' topic, so i shall say something useful.

anorak, i agree, very much so. it cant be age, because im the same! and im younger then you.

james, my brother is the same round new people, totally different to how he is round family and friends. you know where one is when your not so busy

[Mini_Magic]

Thank you to everyone for your kind words and PMs, it really does mean a lot to me to know that people understand and are willing to listen.

[Jammy]

This is probably going to sound really harsh...

But it seems like there are so many blooming disorders that if you look at any negatives of your personality, you can fit them into a disorder of some sort.

To me it just sounds like you have a bit of a confidence problem in front of people you don't know, or not comfortable around. My best advice is to get into as many uncomfortable situations as possible and you'll eventually realise its not so bad.

[captainjack15]

Jammy, it is a true point, but I'm like it in front of my Grandparents and my Dad.

[Mini_Magic]

To me it just sounds like you have a bit of a confidence problem in front of people you don't know, or not comfortable around.

It's more then just a lack of confidence though, when it seriously affects your daily life. Being unable to function properly or feeling extremely uncomfortable in certain situations is much more serious then just being a bit shy and quiet.

Social phobia, also known as social anxiety disorder is a diagnosis within psychiatry and other mental health professions referring to excessive social anxiety (anxiety in social situations) causing abnormally considerable distress and impaired ability to function in at least some areas of daily life.

That pretty much sums up the condition, fearing social situations. A person who doesn't have much confidence will just be a bit quiet or not be as outgoing as other people. A person with S.A.D. will try to avoid social situations and will constantly be thinking about what others think about them, even when there is no one around.

[Natalie]

My best advice is to get into as many uncomfortable situations as possible and you'll eventually realise its not so bad.

It could also have the opposite effect and make things a lot worse.

[tuktuk]

yep, you end up over-analysing the situation youve just been in and put yourself down about it.