you should just be able to tell! if there's a connection there, if someone talks to you out of the blue then you don't have to worry about them not being interested because they could easily have just said nothing,
try and find a mutual connection asap, like for example 'i'm worried my mini won't start in this weather!' 'you drive a mini?! oh i love minis! *flutters eyelashes*' aha or something along those lines, because then you can make the conversation flow better. If she's replying and holding eye contact, she's paying attention, but stop talking anyway and ask if you're boring her, i don't know why but i just think that's quite sweet when guys do that!
if she makes contact with you as often as you do to her then that's a good start too because the chase is coming from both sides. Don't get too serious and OTT too soon, i once met a guy 5 times and he introduced me to his entire family!! i'm talking auntie sally uncle nev ..the works!
Most girls aren't gold diggers, but it is nice when a guy offers to pay, it's just old skool and gentlemanly, but if you're worried she is after your wallet then don't go somewhere expensive go somewhere creative and fun, spontaneity is always a good thing too!
Smile a lot without being too grinny and just have fun and relax (:
x
That’s pretty much what i did, a few weeks into my unemployment course and slowly losing the will to live with having to do 8hours a day searching for jobs witch clearly aren’t out there at the moment. I spotted this new face (they ran a 2 week and 13 week course in the same building) not the most attractive person on the planet, but then again it’s not all down to looks only problem being she was hanging around with this right loud goby *woman of ill repute* so I thought nothing of it and carried on with what i was doing admiring from afar.
Till about a week later I managed to grab a spot next to her on the same table, got chatting, found out she lived in the same part of town as me. I mentioned that maybe we had probably already seen each other without realising (more on that later) she said she might have, but couldn’t remember as she had only been living in her new flat wither other half for about 5 months. But was probably a good chance she had seen me driving round town in the mini.
So there was me thinking, great I finally spot someone worth talking to and she’s already taken, oh well…
But that didn’t stop either of us from chatting to each other for a good couple of weeks at every given opportunity. She now obviously new I was into minis by that stage and brought up the fact she had one given to her as a gift for her 21st (still no driving licence though) but it was still stuck at her old shared house over the other side of mk because it wasn’t running right (throttle had jammed shut) and that she needed someone else to help move it so she could get it to her new place with her driving on a provisional.
I said I didn’t mind having a look, providing she bought any parts that were needed, but that i was busy for a few weeks as I had got a week off to go up to Yorkshire for the week and that the following weekend after that i was attending a show.
So i came back after my week away, chatted some more, she’d said that she had missed chatting to me and that she wasn’t having a very good time with the other half to which I reassured her on.
The week after the show I had been to, she came in one day extremely upset and sobbing her heart out because she had walked out on her other half because she had found out he was having an affair with the bar maid of the local that they went to in town and that basically she had no choice but to move back into her dad’s.
I thought nothing of it, the thought of asking her out didn’t even cross my mind, thought it would have been a bit insensitive to ask so soon, which is why it came as a bit of a shock when she asked me the question.
I agreed and we went out for a few drinks (I paid) to after which I helped get her mini running and back to her dad’s and even helped (and paid) for the hire of a van to move some of the larger stuff, and help settle in.
And I even (mainly because I felt sorry for her) bought her a few items (a ps2 and some jewellery) to replace some of the stuff her now ex had kept hold off.
Then she pointed out a few problems she had found with the mini, this is as well as the ones we found out on the test drive back from the fact it had sat for too long.
I agreed once more, beside I thought we were getting along and were staying over at each other’s and that there was a big show coming up (the 50th) and that maybe the pair of us go and we could pick up the parts we would need. Only problem being that she had arranged for me to meet her birth mum (she was adopted) that weekend, no probs, rearranged it for us to meet them on the Saturday, I stayed over and we went off to the show together.
Following week I set to work on the mini after finishing the course during the day, besides she had paid for the parts and I was told I’ll get the rest once she had some spare or that she would treat me (never did) which is also when she started to be a bit more secretive and sneaking off with her phone more than usual during the day n the course, I thought nothing of it.
I had finished my time on the course by then, but she hadn’t, but that didn’t stop her from texting and calling me each day and meeting up and doing stuff of an evenings, weekends including mini in the park.
Then in her final week I received a text telling me it was over and that she didn’t want to speak to me. (I still didn’t get my half for the work)
This confused me, as up to that point I couldn’t see what had gone wrong, but I left it about 3 weeks before trying to call her. We met back up for a drink (I paid again) and a chat, so which her explanation was she was having a bad day; her ex had been bugging her and had a stupid moment.
At which point I kind of went down hill for the next few months, she was being more secretive, always going out with other people for drinks (me not invited), staying away from home “babysitting” etc. but when we were together we were still doing stuff together, I was still fixing the mini up and buying her gifts, but she had stopped staying over mine and still wasn’t paying her way.
I think I lost it when I found out from looking in her diary (not something I would normally of done) and found and entry saying that she had been with me for about a week and that she was planning on getting back wither ex.
I didn’t confront her on; I just ignored it, besides i couldn’t tell her that’d been through her private and conferential diary could I? So I tried plan b, dropping subtle hints every now and again and see what answers I got.
I still wasn’t 100% convinced, but at least she didn’t know I’d looked, still if you were with someone else why would you still be going round with someone meeting the family, friend’s etc and pretending their your current other half?
I also didn’t like the fact she chose to meet up with someone else (the now not so ex) on my birthday of all days, I didn’t get anything from her not even a card as apparently she “forgot”.
Carried on much like that with me paying from mostly everything (she was spending all her money on him) up until her dad passed away, her ending up with the house and finally moving him in and me with nothing.
Still doesn’t stop me from missing the good times/memories I had with her though and wishing it was me she chose instead.
As for love and attention, I gave all my time to her, Elliot would probably be finished now if I hadn't been spending every free moment I had over the summer with her 
. In fact, the day she dumped me, I took her way up north to see a Mini she'd seen on eBay because she really wanted one. Cost me about £25 in petrol :/.
Looking back makes me feel such a mug, it makes me reluctant to ever trust anyone like that again. Which isn't a good thing because to fall for anyone I believe there needs to be unconditional trust, else how can you ever be happy?
Trouble is, I stupidly used parts I had reserved for my project mini to fix her mini, plus as I’ve been not been paid for the work I did And taking into account for all what’ve spent in the way of gifts, days out, meals etc. I can’t afford to rebuy them right now, so am stuck for things I can do to it to keep me occupied.
. I think I am a good boyfriend, but I seem to pick the girls that will abuse the fact I'm a softy and kind hearted.
