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[Deathrow]

I'm glad someone has outlined what constitutes as being "desperate" because I've had people give me so many different definitions before. People say, don't go out looking for a girl and that speaking to a stranger would be classed as desperate.

I understand I shouldn't go out for the sake of trying to meet a girl, I should go out and have fun but if I see someone I like, try and get up the courage to speak to her.

Or does that also class as desperate? The lines have become so blurred haha.

Lisa, that sounds ideal to me! If I could count on being so lucky haha.

Just for calrity, I don't intend to be a muscle crazed person, I just want to get toned up and a bit of definition for when I've got rid of my, err, blubby jacket.

[cooperdan]

I cant do all that crap myself sorry....

I beleive it works on the basis you make a female friend

you talk alot share things then later on if it feels like you are becoming closer .....it goes from there really....

hate the whole chat up thing lol...cant stand it

[1984mini25]

It may sound harsh mate but you just have to get over her and admit that you just both want different things, you state that you cant understand her reasoning lol, one bit of advice i have for you is

NEVER EVER TRY TO UNDERSTAND WOMEN AS YOU WILL GO INSANE TRYING!!!!!!!

You’ve got that one right.

Most will probably already know my recent relationship *melon* up, so hears the summarised version.
Well I met mine on some unemployment course over the summer after being single for a few years; I made the first move, more in desperation for someone just to talk to.
We got on well, then she broke up with her current long-term partner, she moved back to her dads and that when we started “going out”.
Started doing stuff together and I was fixing up her mini (to which I’ve ended up paying for), carried on like that for a few months till I found out she was still with her original partner and was using me just for the mini.
It ended at the start of the month when her last remaining parent died suddenly and she chose to run to her 62 (she’s 21) other half for comfort than me, she’s even moved him to her dad’s old place even though no one family wise (especially her dad) or friends like/ed him.

Pretty much shows how much she cared, all I’ve had since was one 2-minute phone call that her dad was dead and that I won’t be needed for a while.

I don't know if it's a flaw in my own character but I could never understand all these people that say "Being single is great!" and such lark because I'm always 10000% happier when I'm in a relationship with someone and can share things with them and do nice things for them to make me happy, in a way, making someone else happy makes me really really happy.

That’s the problem I’m having, even though towards the end I knew she was screwing me over (in more ways than one) but being with her was starting to bring me out of my shell again (the start of the year I wasn’t a very happy bunny in more ways than one) and she was willing to help/teach me with so much stuff.

And the one big thing I’m really missing now and is one I don’t get when I’m alone is the physical contact, I really do miss all the kisses, cuddles, touching, brushing her hair etc and then theres the witty banter, jokes etc.

The one thing she did start just before her dad died was trying to help me to gain weight, what with her being in the TA she was a lot fitter than me. But I’ve never been happy with my weight, I’m under weight and far too skinny/young looking for my liking, which I’m sure I’ve linked to why I don’t have much self conference. Only problem being that’s about as far as it went, just talk as it took me so long to speak up about, but It’s still something I would like to change just don’t quite know how.

Edited by 1984mini25, 15 December 2009 - 11:17 PM.

[Bec]

Just reading through..I think we need a group hug

[minili]

Just reading through..I think we need a group hug

HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUG!!!

[mighty mini jack]

HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUG from me too!

Dont think i'll get into my 'problems'!!

[Deathrow]

Hehe, hugs all round!

1984mini25, I know exactly what you're talking about. Missing the contact, the cuddles, watching films at stupid o'clock, cooking her breakfast and bringing her silly little gifts just to see her smile, thos are the things I really really miss more than anything. It's just very warming in life to be intimate with someone. Whenever something bad would happen to me she used to make me feel okay about it because I knew she was there for me. Now whenever something bad happens, it really gets me down.

If you want to put some weight on, have a good scough before bed time! Seems to be the way to go. Or better yet, hit the weights hard! Hehe.

I'm in the middle of moving my junk home for christmas, sleeping on a single matress on the floor, joy!

I heard a saying a while back:

"Girls are like buses, there isn't any for ages and then 3 come at once."

Not that I often compare girls to buses! But does anyone think there is any truth in that statement?

Edited by Deathrow, 16 December 2009 - 06:03 PM.

[Jordie]

I always thought girls were like trains.

Never on time
Never going to the place you want
Costly

[cooperdan]

I dont think so


But then i do believe

Life is only complicated if you make it complicated

But when a female is envolved it is inevitable!

[davidv]

I think you will all do for the job as said on the classic mini film YOU ONLY HAVE TO BLOW HER DRAWS OFF

[mighty mini jack]

I think you will all do for the job as said on the classic mini film YOU ONLY HAVE TO BLOW HER DRAWS OFF

OUT.

[TashHaggertay]

depends what kind of person you want to meet! gigs, pubs, clubs, parties etc or my favourite- stop looking! it's the best feeling when you meet someone totally randomly and there's just something there straight away!

i've read through everyones replies on here and it really is so unfair how decent people get screwed over by nasty pieces of work and then you're the one left with the trust issues, it's happened to me too! countless times with my ex! bleurrgghhh makes me feel ill even thinking of him! aha

Be positive- negativity is never an attractive quality! Be yourself from the word go!

best of luck x

[TashHaggertay]

and guys! what is all this women hating about?!
you lot are just as bad! probably worse!!!! aha

[danie garry]

and guys! what is all this women hating about?!
you lot are just as bad! probably worse!!!! aha

i dont hate women!!!!

[TashHaggertay]

and guys! what is all this women hating about?!
you lot are just as bad! probably worse!!!! aha

i dont hate women!!!!

good! i'm just fighting our corner! we're not all expensive and untrustworthy! (: